Taking Radical Responsibility
Taking radical responsibility is no joke. It can be overwhelmingly confronting at times. Because let’s be honest – blaming other people for how we feel is something we’ve all done at one point or another.
“He’s so draining.”
“She made me so annoyed.”
“That conversation ruined my whole mood.”
It’s subtle, unconscious, and super common. But something is also happening behind the scenes: your subconscious mind (and energy field!) are always listening!
Giving your power away
Every time you handball responsibility for your mood, mindset, or energy to someone else, you’re giving your power away. You’re placing your emotional state in someone else’s hands. And when that becomes a habit, you start to live at the mercy of everyone and everything around you.
That is the moment we step out of our power. That is the moment we slide into victimhood. And the biggest problem (especially for sensitive people), is that we start leaking energy.
What is taking radical responsibility?
Taking radical responsibility means completely owning your emotional and energetic state. It doesn’t mean shutting down your emotions, ignoring your triggers, or pretending everything is fine. It actually means noticing when you’re reactive, angry, blaming, or projecting, and instead, choosing to pause and ask yourself:
- “Why is this triggering me?”
- “What am I feeling right now/
- “Where am I giving my power away?”
- “How can I take ownership of this emotion and shift it?”
This takes practice. It’s not always easy, and your ego will fight it. But the payoff is huge.
Choosing peace over projection
A little while ago, I was at brunch with some friends. The conversation turned to cancer – personal thoughts about the disease, how they felt about the medical system, and their personal opinions on treatment. A few years ago, this would’ve been deeply triggering for me. My mum passed away from cancer in 2014 and for the few years after, I hated conversations about cancer.
Emotional mastery is recognising your choices
Now, I had a choice. I could shut down. I could make it about me, judge them, walk away, or stew in silent resentment. But instead, I chose to stay present.
I contributed to the conversation—not from a place of hurt or defensiveness, but with grounded calm. What I didn’t do, was take it personally. I didn’t need to make it about me. They were simply expressing their opinions. They hadn’t lived my experience (and thank goodness too).
Letting it go didn’t mean the conversation wasn’t complex – it just meant I stayed in my power. I didn’t react, and I didn’t let it drag me down. And I didn’t need them to change or stop talking about this important topic, in order for me to feel okay.
Radical responsibility is the end of emotional outsourcing
Here’s the kicker: taking responsibility doesn’t mean you don’t speak up. But it does mean you are aware of your own emotions, and respond from a place of calm and groundedness, not react from hurt, anger or fear.
If someone says something that triggers you, it’s not about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about recognising that your reaction is often tied to something deeper.
Maybe it’s not about the guy who ghosted you—it’s about the abandonment wound that’s been with you since childhood. Maybe it’s not about your friend being “too much”—it’s about your own discomfort with setting boundaries or being seen.
When you take radical responsibility, you stop projecting, and instead, start reflecting. You begin to understand the root of your triggers rather than exploding onto others. You begin to own your energetic state instead of unconsciously leaking it everywhere.
Radical responsibility = true empowerment
When you stop relying on other people to make you feel better, you reclaim your energy. You feel empowered in your own mindset and emotional space. You’re no longer drained by every conversation, mood shift, or external event. And you can ground, regulate, and clear your energy…without needing someone else to do it for you.
You also start to build deeper, healthier connections, because you’re not blaming or energetically dumping on others. And the best part? You stop waiting to be rescued, fixed, or validated—and start becoming your own energetic anchor.
This is how you go from surviving to thriving. How you can stop reacting and start responding. This is how you become someone who feels solid, calm, and powerful in your own skin.
Need support?
It’s a process, one that takes time to learn! We are also human, so of course we are going to feel triggered from time to time. No-one is perfect – I’m definitely not! It’s just about doing your best in each moment, and the more you practice radical responsibility, the more aware we become and the easier it is.
If you’re feeling like your energy is all over the place, you’re stuck in blame loops, or you’re constantly picking up other people’s moods, I get it. It can be a very challenging habit to break. Even more so if you’re sensitive to energy and emotions. Everyone needs support sometimes.
If this is you, book in for a Reiki Healing or a Reiki + Coaching session to get a deep energetic reset, clear your field, and start reconnecting to your personal power.
Learn more with Reiki Level 1
Want to go deeper? My next Reiki Level 1 course is on 4th and 5th October. This is where I teach you the real tools for clearing your energy, raising your vibration, and standing in your light—even when the world feels heavy.
If you want to start now, you can also access my online Protect Your Energy course on energy protection anytime. It’s a practical and powerful resource to help you take responsibility for your energy and protect your field in everyday life. If you have any questions, contact me here.
